Hi guys, just been having some thoughts on this recently, too much of it that I've decided to write about it.
Some times we think that we are not good enough
Some times we think that we are not worthy
Some times we compare ourselves to others and deem them as "perfect" while we're "pathetic"
Some times we think too much at night
Some times we get our emotions run over
Some times we feel jealous of the rich
Some times we feel ugly
Some times we feel life is unfair because of all the bad things happening
Some times we don't like ourselves
Some times we hate ourselves for being us
Some times we are the ones who bring ourselves down
Some times we feel lonely
Some times we feel unloved
Some times we feel that no one can understand our horrible situation
Some times we feel like the world is a better place without us
Some times we forget how blessed we are to even be thinking of such things
People are suffering in unfortunate situations, having no food, they have to worry about how they're going to survive another day when they can't feel themselves up. These people are worried about how to even keep their bodies able to last through another day. They want to live, they're fighting to live, but we want to end our lives when we have everything we need, food, air, water, shelter, clothes and etc just because we are going through a tough period. Let me remind you, you are tough enough to get through this because you are strong!
Don't we seem very unappreciative?
I think we are too blessed with everything we have that we forget how blessed we are.
I am not saying that we can't feel down and are wrong to feel so but there are really people having it worse. It's just like how you think you're smart, pretty, rich, the best, but there'll always be someone prettier, smarter, richer, higher and better than you. Someone will always have it worse, so be thankful.
You only have $5 left to go through the day? Be thankful that you can still buy some food.
You only got a B for your exams? It's okay, you are one step closer to an A.
You failed your exams? It's okay, you can just worker harder the next time round.
You fell out with your friend? I'm sorry, but if they're meant to leave, they will.
You don't like your meal in front of you? At least you have food to eat, be thankful.
You hate your new class/school? Thank God you can have education.
There's always a better side to things. Try to look at the brighter side.
Life will always become better no matter how much you do not believe in that. However, it will also not become better if you keep dwelling on the past hurts and think negatively on everything. Mindsets like "life is just good to me for a day, tomorrow will definitely not be good, I am dreading tomorrow." If you already predict that tomorrow will suck, it most likely would because you told yourself and your mind that "I am going to feel sad tomorrow". We can't think like this, negativity is like bacteria. It spreads all over you if you do not do anything about it. We need to get help from someone and eat proper medicine to heal ourselves and to stop it from spreading further. We should not feed ourselves with grief and negativity. It hurts our bodies, it is not healthy to think of bad thoughts. Ask yourself this, why do you think of bad thoughts when you can think of good thoughts? Why do you choose to feed yourself with sadness instead of overwhelming yourself with happiness? Do what's better for yourself.
I go through pain, hurt and anger too. I lose friends, get angry with my family, get hurt over and over again by words and actions but those are just phases of life. A phase is not forever, it will be over it is a "phase" for a reason. So get over your hurt and move on, don't dwell on unhealthy thoughts. If you feel like you cannot take it anymore, talk to someone. PLEASE, talk to someone. I promise you that you will feel better after talking to someone rather than cooping it all up in yourself. It will eventually eat you up. We have to go through lessons in life to learn, to grow. Lessons should make you stronger and not tear you down.
If you feel like life will never go well for you, you are dead wrong. Say I'm religious, but God has a plan for you, for me and for everyone else. A smooth path is easy, but you don't get to feel the excitement of a bumpy road. We have to learn to enjoy the process of the road just like how many of us enjoys a roller coaster ride, will the roller coaster ride be fun if it is just a straight path with no drops? No, that defeats the purpose of a roller coaster, right? Your life has a purpose! You are a blessing to someone, just by plainly existing in their life, you are a blessing. Trust me. And that is something to feel great about because how great is it that someone is thankful for your existence?! IT'S AMAZING! I love life, I love people and seeing people love each other warms my heart.
I have gone through things in my life that I wish did not happen, broken friendships, people I wish I never met, incidents that hurt me so much I cry over it for days. But it's all over now. I learn and grow from those past stories. They molded me into what I am today, and I am proud of it.
People leave you, get over it. Some people are not meant to be in your life, they will leave eventually no matter how you try to keep them. Better people will come along your way! Don't feel alone, there is always someone around. Humans are not meant to be alone, you will have friends that will be with you going through the ups and downs for a long long time. Treasure them, tell them you love them and are thankful for them.
"Fire doesn't come quickly, it requires patience and attention."
If you have recently gone through something that broke your heart, let time heal it. To heal a wound, you need to stop touching it. I want to remind everyone that whatever happens, you are loved, it's a bad day, not a bad life! (yes I know, I always say this but it's so very true) You need time and patience to pull yourself up, get your shit together and come back even stronger and better. Life is really a roller coaster ride, everyone goes through horrible things, you are not the only one. So do not always swallow yourself in self pity and think that the world is ending because of your trivial matter. No, the world goes on rotating and it will not stop for you. Just like a train, even if you don't ride it to enjoy the ride, it will continue moving on to the next station. So why not hop on and enjoy the ride even though you know it will be tiring? Keep trying out new things, new adventures, new food, make new friends, new clothes and try anything you want to try. You really only get to live once, have fun and enjoy life.
Life is filled with so much fun and there's just so much beauty in one's life. If you want to have that ice cream, buy it, eat it and enjoy the process of it. You want to get a new hairdo? GO FOR IT! You want to try out bungee jumping? GO FOR IT! You want to buy clothes? JUST BUY IT! You want to travel to Japan? SAVE UP AND GO AHEAD! You want to buy a $50 t-shirt? BUY IT! (even though erm $50 for a t-shirt is rather expensive but if you really like it, get it). The question is, why not? We only have about 80-90 years on earth to enjoy life, why are we not living it to the fullest? Don't let your studies hold you back from enjoying things just because you have to study. NO, that is bullshit. Studying has to be done but you can manage your time better and enjoy even during your exams period. I have never understood why my friends always said "cannot la, exams coming, we go out after exams" when I ask them out let's say, a week before exams. If someone asked me out, I would most likely say yes. Exams should not be stopping me from having fun and enjoying that week before the exams. It is not a probation period, why should I be cooping myself at home and stuffing my face in notes? Well, that's my take. I don't see the need in studying for 10000000 hours a day when I know I am just comforting myself that I am doing something and not slacking off unlike everyone else who is studying so damn hard.
It's okay if you disagree with me on everything I have said so far. Disagree, it's your life, your take, your choice. Don't let anyone stop you from doing anything you want, unless it's bad for you. If you are being dissuaded from doing something that hurts you or others, please don't do it. Don't hurt anyone for your self-interest and don't hurt someone with words during a rash moment. I am learning to do so, even though it is hard. Making a change inside is really difficult, it takes so much time but it can be done if we really want to make a change. Makes changes that really make you happy, do the right thing.
For people who feel worthless, unloved, unaccepted and so many more that I can't finish listing out please don't. You are worthy. You mean something to someone. You are important. You do not deserve to feel like this. Bad things do not define you, you are who you are now. Be who you want to become and do not feel afraid to take a step out of your comfort zone because of others' opinions, it does not matter. Be yourself and love yourself. Look around you, there's definitely someone who treasures you. You just need to open up your heart and accept them and see carefully there's someone waiting for you to go into their embrace anytime! Please learn to love yourself, and love others too. But you can't do so if you don't love yourself. Everything starts from you and your small step of faith.
Please don't spread hate. Stay away from someone if you dislike him/her, you don't have to let them know that you do not like them. It only makes them feel like crap and you don't gain anything too. This world will be a better place if everyone learns how to love more and complain less. Again, I am still learning. I always complain and always rant, but I really do treasure my life, my friends around me, my family and everything that I have. I love life, I love how beautiful the world is, I want to travel all around to taste new food, see how others live and view beautiful scenery. Let our 2016 goal to be more positive, enjoy life more and generally just to be happy and contented always. Happiness is not that far away, you just have to walk towards it and stop idling around.
I want to let those in my life now know that I love you, thank you for being you, thank you for existing and thank you for accepting me!
